The Art of Friendship in Adulthood: Finding Kindred Spirits in a Busy World

Dear Kindred Spirit,

There’s something magical about finding a true friend as an adult. It’s different from childhood, when friendships formed effortlessly on the playground, in the neighborhood, or through endless after-school adventures. As we grow, life fills up—careers, marriages, children, and responsibilities naturally take center stage. The opportunities to meet and bond with new people seem fewer, and yet, the need for deep, soul-nourishing friendships remains just as strong.

Lately, I’ve been reflecting on the beauty of making new connections at this stage in life—the excitement of meeting someone who just gets you, shares your values, and radiates the same energy you do. It’s a rare and precious spark. I know I’m not alone in this, so let’s talk about it: how do we cultivate meaningful friendships as adults?

1. Friendship Starts with Openness

In our busy lives, it’s easy to keep our social circles small or assume that deep friendships are behind us. But friendship thrives on openness—being willing to meet new people, step into new spaces, and allow connections to form naturally. Whether it’s joining a class, engaging in a community, or simply being warm and receptive when meeting someone new, the energy we bring can attract the right people into our lives.

2. Common Ground is the Spark, but Depth is the Glue

Many friendships begin with shared interests—Pilates, personal growth, motherhood, spirituality, or even a favorite book. But what sustains a friendship is something deeper: mutual respect, emotional generosity, and a shared outlook on life. It’s not just about what you have in common, but how you both show up for each other in the relationship.

3. Making Time for Friendship (Even in a Busy Life!)

Unlike childhood, where friendship was woven into daily life, adult friendships require intentionality. A simple text to check in, a voice note sharing something funny, or scheduling a virtual coffee chat can go a long way. Time is precious, but true friendships don’t demand constant presence—they thrive on consistent, meaningful moments.

4. Energy Alignment Matters

Not every connection is meant to last, and that’s okay. As we grow, we become more discerning about the energy we allow into our lives. I’ve learned that the best friendships are not about obligation, but about two whole individuals choosing to walk alongside each other in joy, support, and understanding. The right friendships feel easy, uplifting, and inspiring—never one-sided or draining.

5. Letting Friendship Unfold Naturally

One of the most beautiful lessons I’ve learned is to let friendships develop at their own pace. Sometimes, we meet someone and instantly feel that kindred spark, but we don’t need to force or rush the connection. Just like any meaningful relationship, friendships thrive when they are given space to grow organically.

A Beautiful Journey

If you’ve ever felt like deep friendships are harder to come by in adulthood, I encourage you to stay open to the unexpected. Sometimes, the right people enter our lives at just the perfect moment, whether through a class, a community, or even an intuitive nudge that leads you somewhere new.

I’d love to hear from you—what has been your experience with making friends as an adult? Have you found your kindred spirits?

Here’s to the friendships that make life richer, fuller, and more beautiful.

With love,

Jennifer ~ xox ❤️