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Breaking Free from Self-Sabotage: A Simple but Powerful Exercise to Rewire Limiting Beliefs

Alright, friend. It’s time for some real talk. We’ve all been there—excited about a goal, dreaming big, feeling unstoppable… and then, out of nowhere, we start tripping over our own feet. We procrastinate, overthink, talk ourselves out of things, or convince ourselves we’re not ready yet. Sound familiar?

That, my dear friend, is self-sabotage at its finest. And guess what? Most of the time, it’s not even conscious. It’s just old, outdated programming running in the background of our minds, whispering things like:

• “I always mess things up.”

• “I’m not good enough.”

• “It probably won’t work out for me.”

• “Who do I think I am to do this?”

Well, today we’re calling those thoughts out. And we’re rewriting the script. Ready? Grab a journal or a piece of paper, and let’s do this together.

The “Rewrite Your Story” Exercise

Step 1: Spot the Sabotage

First, think about an area in your life where you tend to hold yourself back. Maybe it’s starting that new project, feeling confident in relationships, or believing in your ability to succeed. Now, pause and ask yourself:

What is one limiting belief that keeps showing up?

Write it down. No filtering. No sugarcoating. Just the raw, unedited belief that plays in your mind when you feel stuck.

For example:

🚫 “I always fail when I try new things.”

🚫 “I’m just not disciplined enough.”

🚫 “No one really cares what I have to say.”

Be brutally honest—this is just between you and the paper.

Step 2: Flip the Script

Now, let’s challenge that belief. Ask yourself:

• Is this 100% true? (Spoiler: It’s not.)

• Where did I even learn this belief? (Sometimes, these thoughts aren’t even ours—they were handed to us by family, teachers, or past experiences.)

• What is a more empowering belief I can choose instead?

Take your original limiting belief and flip it into a new, empowering statement.

For example:

✅ “I am learning and growing with every new experience.”

✅ “I have everything I need to become disciplined and successful.”

✅ “My voice matters, and the right people want to hear what I have to say.”

Write your new belief boldly on the page. Say it out loud. Let it sink in.

Step 3: Anchor It with Action

Now, take it a step further—what’s one small action you can take today that aligns with your new belief? Something simple but meaningful.

For example:

✨ If your new belief is “I am capable of success,” take 10 minutes to work on that passion project.

✨ If your new belief is “I am worthy of love and connection,” send a kind message to a friend instead of isolating.

✨ If your new belief is “My voice matters,” write a blog post, make a video, or share a thought with someone (talking to myself with that one).

Small actions add up. And when you act as if your new belief is already true, your mind starts to believe it.

Final Thoughts: You Are in Control

You don’t have to be stuck in old thought patterns forever. The beauty of this practice is that every time you catch a limiting belief, you get to rewrite it. You get to choose a new narrative.

And if you ever feel those old self-sabotaging thoughts creeping back in? Repeat this exercise. Because the more you challenge them, the less power they hold over you.

Have fun with this exercise and let me know how it goes. We can do this together! 💛

Have a good weekend.

Love Always,

Jennifer ~ xox